I cannot speak for all adoption situations, but I can definitely speak for mine.
I am considered the BLACK SHEEP of my adopters. I was once the one they spoiled, but that was because the secret had to be protected. Now as an adult, I am the outcast. No matter what mistakes I have made going through life as a child, teenager, and adult, they do not compare to the ones that their own bloodline has made.
My minor mistakes became major mistakes, overpowering the bloodline who deceived, molested, solicited prostitution, imprisoned for accessory to murder, drugs...: the list is endless.
My mistakes:
- Being a teenager who ran away for less than 9 hours due to adopters' blood son wanting to be alone in the house with a girl that was not permitted to be there while his parents were away (let alone be there when they were home).
- Deciding not to go to college right after graduation in fear of leaving home for four years because adopters' foster sister/daughter (explain another time) decided to give advice on college just being about sex and not education.
- Having a child out of wedlock at a young age even though I completed school and left home on my own to raise my daughter without any help from them.
- As an adult, single mom, trying to raise three kids without support, doing whatever I could financially to raise them and give rent to adopters who had no need for the money but was suppose to be helping me save after divorce. NOT
- And lastly, I'm sure writing this blog is the ultimate molestation, solicitation, imprisonment, addiction.... to their eyes and ears of gossip.
For my mistakes, I am the BLACK SHEEP
I am not perfect, I do not act perfect, I do not want to be perfect; But I am not a molester, solicitor, murderer, nor addict.
My adoption story may not be yours, you may have had a happy outcome, but there are some that have had similar outcomes as mine or worse. I share my story to let it be known that being adopted is not always Red Roses and White Calla Lillies.
People have no idea what foster and adopted children go through and the affects it has on them as adults. You could be given the world as a adopted child to keep from finding out about adoption secrets, but once you find out as an adult, then you become the bad person for asking questions as to why you were never told.
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