Past Values Impact Present Values

Being Adopted into Deceit, family values had a very important impact on how I raise my children today, as well as how my personality is reflected. Since this is the Thanksgiving holiday, I wanted to see how past family values of my readers helped to impact present values that you use today in your own families. No matter if the past was negative or positive, it all has an impact on how we present our own traditions and values into our everyday family lifestyles with our own families.

For me: My Past Family Values were both negative and positive, so I learned to incorporate the negative into a positive and the positive into a more positive.

Positive Past Family Value: The importance of proving yourself to be the best that you can be for others to look up to you. I took that value and made it greater

Positive Present Family Value: The importance of doing the best you can, without judgement and embarrassment. Everyone has a gift and the ability to achieve anything. A simple pat on the back and encouragement amongst family and friends goes a long way. I teach my kids to do their best to make themselves happy. I am there to encourage and support their every effort. For every effort, there is a reward of an accomplished feeling, a hug from mom, and the motivation to want to do even more to prove to themselves that they are achievers. Being looked up to is just an added bonus, but it's really about looking up to yourself and having the confidence that you are great!

Negative Past Family Value:  The importance of lying to keep the peace so that no one can ask why, how, what for, when, or where questions. I took that value and made it into a learning tool

Positive Present Family Value: The importance of being honest from the start shows respect, character, trust, responsibility, and maturity. I teach my kids to always tell the truth no matter what the outcome. I am going to love you regardless, I will respect you even more for being up front with me and others. If it is something that will endanger the well being of others, then decisions have to be made support one another to try to turn a bad thing into a good thing without dangerous consequences. Every wrong has a right of passage and can be corrected to make things better in some form or shape. Lying doesn't keep peace, instead it can tear respect to pieces, tear trust to pieces, tear character to pieces, tear maturity to pieces, and tear responsibility to pieces.

What Past Family Values impacted your Present Family Values today?

Please share below: I want you to be more than just readers, I want to hear from you as well. Your comments and experiences are appreciated and helpful.